Self Respect

Self-respect depends on knowing who I am, knowing my eternal (ageless), spiritual self. When I have found that sense of spiritual identity, I feel I have a right to be here, to exist. Without the spiritual dimension, it is very difficult to really respect myself deeply. In this case, I base my respect on identifying with the superficial (artificial) aspects of my being: looks, gender, success, my life partner, my intelligence. With such artificial identification, I will never have a stable sense of self-respect, because people's opinions change. Today they love me, tomorrow they reject me. What is the result of depending on their opinions? I will end up fluctuating all the time - feeling positive when they say good things, and feeling down when they say negative things. To stay stable in my self-respect, I need to have a deeper understanding of my spiritual identity (the foundation of this being that I am a soul) and tap into those riches that are within me forever, waiting to blossom, like the flower from the seed.

As I become spiritually aware, those riches and resources start flowing out of me. The more stable I am in my self-respect and spirituality, the more I radiate what I truly am. I feel a deep sense of contentment and I am happy to be me, however I am. I accept myself as I am.

Time ....

Time plays a major role ...

In current days all are having problem in their lives , I'm sure no body will be there who is not tensed ...either for this or for that
Tension is part of our life...In current age all trying to do everything quickly ...every body trying to be number-1...well this is good...when there is will...then there is a way...But sometime our mind just confused in certain step ...
few of the basic confusing questions are..............

whether to go this way or to go that way...

whether to accept the situation or get away from the situation...

how to handle with the person whom we are thinking as if he/she is our biggest enemy...

whether we are right or wrong...

why people not understanding my point of view ...

why this thing always happen with me only...

why i'm realizing always at the end...

and Many more....

Do you know here in every question time plays a major role...in certain moment we are very weak in our thinking ...
so we just lost the control over our mind at that hour these type of thinking came in to our mind...Soul is always with positive side and it's our will power ...our main aim is to be peaceful...but mind always trying us to be disturbed...mind wants to enjoy the thing by dragging the situation...but better to get the solution as soon as possible...it's the main aim...mind behaves like a child as child can't keep quite ...so better to engage your mind with some useful activities such as reading books, helping needy people, think always that you are a peaceful being who is there to help others...feed the mind with positive thoughts...I know sometime in our mind few negative thoughts come such as if you need to meet someone after a gap..then the rememberence of last meeting will be surely there and if the last meeting was not healthy ...then that thing will be there in your mind... so better think positive about that person..i know this is very difficult ...but try your best ...do all favor whatever you can do for that person...This time he/she might be changed...but let them know that you left the complaining attitude...let them realize that you are bit comfortable with them...try this magic once...

Let me share one story...once there was one governor in one state and he served people with all his effort you can say he did a lot for people...so he was selected to get some award...for that he got his flight ticket ...when he was selected for the award he was already retired...
but before 10 days of the award ceremony he lost his legs in an accident...he was in deep shock...feeling to leave the life...as now he is handicapped and people may laugh for his situation...no body will ask him...or every body will say poor man etc...so he started avoiding all ...even he scold his wife ...told her to leave him etc...but after few days when he was reading the news-paper he came to know that the respective flight was crashed....in which he got the ticket...Now his anger and frustration came down...and he felt as if he was the luckiest man in this world...as GOD saved him ...if he went in that flight...then that was might be the last journey of the life...but really he was lucky to get life...he felt as if he got new life...and really happy and again started mingling with others nicely ...

so friends..bad time is always there with every body...but the way we are dealing is the main thing...have control over your emotion...if you are not able to decide immediately...be silent for little time...let the bad time flows in it's direction ...you'll see everything will be as usual...
so keep your mind stable that's the main thing ...stability is our control factor...we need to get it our own...if the opposite person is not getting us then some problem might be there with our way of thinking ...first realize what we are explaining is that clear...so to represent our thoughts clearly...our mind should be clear, and full of pure thoughts...

Time will heal every thing ...if not today then tomorrow....definitely